Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will always hurt. This is what my mom used to say to my brothers and I growing up. It is hard to realize the magnitude of power that words have until you grow up. But even then, controlling your words and how you use them is a struggle - especially for moms!
Minimize negative comments and maximize your positive ones!
While what we say is important, what we hear can influence our lives as well. Perhaps a comment from a well meaning friend, your mother-in-law is trying to be helpful or maybe you are your own worst critic. You don't have what it takes. Don't get your hopes up. When you hear these words tearing you down, be ready with a positive message for yourself. I am a smart, creative woman. I can do this! You need to believe these positive messages when you tell them to yourself. Hannah Keeley says it best in her book TMM, "Make them real, say them out loud, support them with you actions. If you believe you are smart, intelligent, and creative, then you will act accordingly."
|Yes, this includes words that you tell yourself!|
While all communication is powerful, the most powerful communication by far, is what occurs within. Everyone has the tendency to act in behaviors that keep us from reaching out goals. You stay on the couch and watch TV when you want to be working out. You sleep in when you really wanted to get an early start to the day. You want to be compassionate with the kids and then you start yelling. You must keep you vision clear and ask yourself, "What do I really want?" This is the question that can help keep you focused even when you feel like giving up. Practice asking yourself this question daily and in many situations. We face temptation everyday and our body and mind long for instant gratification, even when we really desire something more.
The daily exercise for today is to write down these four categories in your journal: home, health, family and life. Under each one write a positive and empowering message to show the vision that you have for that area in your life. Speak these messages out loud and throughout the day. It's as simple as writing, "I love my home" and helping to transform your attitude for the day. Write down some replacements for the negative things you say around the house as well and practice using those.
Repeat after me: I am a beautiful woman who is creating a life that I love!